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One year ago at 5:00pm I left the doctor’s office and was assured you’d be here before your due date and you didn’t waste any time because 10 minutes later my contractions started and less then 12 hours later you were in my arms. I’m totally unsure how I feel about this whole “turning 1” business but I do know that life has been so much sweeter since you came along. You made me a mama, but baby boy, you’ve done so much more than that. You’ve taught me how to slow down - a lesson I desperately needed to learn. You’ve taught me how to be less judgmental and how to give others (and myself) grace. You’ve made my best friend a father and shown me how strong our relationship truly is. And, to prevent this post from getting too sappy... you’ve also taught me how to do pretty much everything one handed, including pee in a public restroom wearing overalls, the importance of always having an extra change of clothes in the car, and that’s there’s nothing coffee or the washing machine can’t fix. #butfirstmiles
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#onederful #firstbirthday #joyfulmotherhood #boymom #momblogger #momlife #joyfulmamas

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This is the look of someone who has been sitting on a beanbag for three months and just confirmed delivery of her sofa for THIS SUNDAY ✨🥳🙏🏻💃🏻 You don’t realize how vital a sofa is to the lifeblood of your family until you live without one for a quarter of a year. We also installed our new light (peep it at the top of this picture) and our new rug arrives next week. This space is where we spend pretty much all our time as a family so I can’t wait to have it finally put together. #brancifortehome

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Are you about going all out for birthdays or keeping it more low key? .
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We had a mini early birthday for Miles this weekend while my mom was in town and it wasn’t all that elaborate but there was cake (which Miles approved of ) and there was love and there was a $5 garland background I made at the last minute so, I’ll call it a 1st butfirstmilesbirthday party win. #butfirstmiles
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#firstbirthdayparty #cakesmash #boymom #joyfulmotherhood #momlife #momblogger

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✨I’ll be honest✨I wondered how motherhood would fit into my life. I mean, I knew I wanted to be a mom way before Miles showed up and made me one, but I still worried about how I’d juggle being a mom and still be me.
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I feel like a lot of this was brought on by this double standard there seems to be for women that we need to be amazing mothers but also hustle hard after our dreams. That we shouldn’t let being a mom change us but that we need to adapt to parenthood. That we need to work like we don’t have kids and mother like we don’t have other work. .
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Well, if I've learned anything from my first year of motherhood it's that you can't live up to this double standard and thrive. I was used to being able to do it all myself and so it has been a humbling experience to have to accept help in order to flourish. Like letting Michael take over dinner duty or having him take Miles for the morning so I can film and edit. The only way I’ve been able to be a mother I’m proud of AND maintain and pursue my passion isn't because I am rising to try to meet this double standard but it's because I’ve accepted support and help. Even this photo wouldn’t exist without accepting help. It was taken this morning before I filmed a segment at @wfsbnews for @betterconnecticut - I wouldn’t be filming this segment if the show’s producer, @jamielyncalli didn’t offer to hold Miles in the production room while I was on air. This photo itself was taken by another guest @tbiddy17 who I had just met and offered to snap it. At every turn since becoming a mom I find myself letting myself (little by little) lean on others for support. #womenempoweringwomen #dontforgetdads #butfirstmiles #joyfulmotherhood

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