Today’s inspiration is very much reflective on my own life this week. Without going into too much detail, because I have real-life acquaintances that read this little corner of the internet (Hi Mom!)… I was recently in a situation where I felt pressured to make sure my surrounding company liked me. Now, one of the best pieces of advice I ever received, and I am still practicing to perfect, is that you can’t make everyone happy, not everyone is going to like you. I’m sure you’ve all heard this advice before, it’s thrown around all over the place, but how often do you really HEAR it and BELIEVE it? How often, if ever, do you really let that advice sink in and practice the art of “not everyone will like me?” Because, while saying it is easy, really believing it is much more difficult, especially when you are in a situation where you want someone to like you and it just ain’t happening. As social beings we naturally want the people around us to like us. I mean, who wants to be disliked, really?
But the truth is, not everyone will like you. Even if you are trying your darndest to make each person like you, someone won’t…..and you know what? That’s OK. Now, I have to constantly remind my own self of this, because while I know it, I have to practice the discipline of always believing it. When I was at this event that will remain anonymous, I finally said to myself, if I waste my whole time trying to make sure every single person likes me, I’m not going to have any time to enjoy myself. I’d rather use my efforts to have a good time with the people who don’t need to be coddled and impressed and like me just the way I am.
And when it really comes down to it, usually what people don’t like about me are some of my own favorite qualities about myself, so it’d be a shame if I masked them simply to please someone who can’t appreciate them in all their glory (that last bit was sarcasm, one of said qualities that often people don’t like about me.)
OK, this is where I’ll leave you today because I’ve attempted to write five different entries to this post and they all lead down a whole other rabbit hole.
Remember that you are who you are. So long as you are trying your hardest to be the best version of yourself you can be, that is what really matters. No matter how nice or kind or good you are, someone will always not like it. No matter how funny or energetic or spontaneous you are, someone will not like it. No matter how intelligent, compassionate, peaceful or put-together you are, someone will not like it.